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Transcend Self-Help Cliché’s • Subtle Humor • Ridicule Acceptance Grace is the style of accepting. Has more flow, life and love than feeling dumb or helpless. Feel Our Body We’re making up after conflict: We feel sweetness, while feeling the past pain. May the feelings converge into: • inner harmony with: 1. Truth of situation; 2. Acceptance; 3. Forgiveness • better emotional preparedness should the problem recur. • convergence of all feelings expressed in your eyes, versus playing “pretty nice”. Breath Feel infinity. Centering Self Cherish niceness of infinity with open or closed eyes • Temporarily let go of what’s happening on earth. Condescension Observe bright communicators who commune with their audience. Something about the culture at Harvard feels less arrogant than you might expect. This is often reflected in books from Harvard Press as well. Their publications often speak to inquiring minds from diverse walks of life. This is one reason why Harvard is well respected in society at large. Put yourself in their shoes: • Under challenged? Practice the creative art of simplifying communication that resonates with your listener..! Rejoice in the connection you’ve made, versus feeling proud about your growing skill in relating to others. • It’s inhumane to believe perceived arrogance is only the other’s issue. • The lofty speaker usually is unaware of the pain felt in the less intelligent. Any Differences In Their Mind’s Speed & Yours? • People often won’t feel heard when you respond quickly. • “Be With Them”: Listen on their wavelength. Feeling bored? Put any “idle” part of yourself to work in resonating with what they’re saying. How well are you doing? Maybe they resonate better than you? Dumbing Down To Self-Help Cliché’s • Today’s self help culture often dumbs down the magical intricacies of relating with others. The clichés work for the lower common denominators. Solutions: • Recognize then accept today’s culturally bound syndromes. • What lies below the clichéd words is infinite wisdom. • Connect beyond words and without criticism. You’ll be less frustrated and bored. • Try communicating on both common levels, and the levels you aspire for. Subtle Humor Know how some people have a subtle way of almost making you giggle? Italian culture relishes the mild comedies of life. Find a way to nurture this in what can be a somewhat black and white self-help culture world. Ridicule There can be an intricate “ridicule dance” in relationships. How do you minimize or stop it? Consider: • Don’t play into the ridicule dance. Are you somehow egging them on? Find ways to be yourself, while showing that you don’t tolerate ridicule. Naturally Thinking Faster Than Others * Do you habitually think faster than others? Or do you know others who might be this way? Here are ways to help diminish the gap. Let What You Say Sink In: • Visualize how what I said is sinking into their soul. Their absorption can happen while they are speaking. Absorption can happen consciously or unconsciously. Watch how their demeanor may change. • Your making the next statement before their absorption can: -Diminish valuable absorption of your earlier statement. -Frazzle them. -Reduce the ability to absorb the next statement.
Simplify & Word Things In Their Perspective: • This enables you to say more, without over whelming them. • Speaking compassionately may help open their hearts.
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